Do you receive texts by some guy who has a girlfriend already and not sure how to interpret them?
There can be multiple reasons why a guy is chatting you up on the reg even though he is in a relationship.
We will also discuss how you should approach a situation like this, but the gist is that you should not react at all.
1. He is looking for advice.
We will give him the benefit of the doubt, and one of the reasons a boy can text you even though he has a girlfriend could be for seeking advice.
Sometimes, boys are looking for advice from another girl, especially one who is not close to his girlfriend. He might be having a rough time in his relationship and might need an opinion on what he should do.
If this is the case, make sure to be a helpful hand, as you never know when karma strikes!
2. He is looking for a side chick.
You will notice if he is looking to cheat on his girlfriend from his flirting behavior.
This type of guy will act differently when their partner is around and get flirty when alone.
If you don’t want to end up disappointed, I recommend not getting lost in the attention he offers you.
At the end of the day, if he is willing to cheat on his current girlfriend, he will most likely cheat on you as well.
3. He likes you in secret.
As we all know, you can dictate the heart who to love! And this might be the case here too.
The guy likes you too much, even if he is in a relationship with somebody else.
You should remain friends and ensure you do not cross any lines while still with the respective girl.
You don’t know what the future holds for both of you, but until then, live your life!
If you like him too, then consider becoming more distant while he has a girlfriend.
Some relationships will last forever, while some end sooner!
4. Share the same hobbies.
According to Sheila Tucker, LAMFT (Licensed Associate Marriage and Family Therapist), couples who share the same hobbies and interests “are more likely to maintain a long-term relationship.”
So perhaps, he might not have that much in common with his current girlfriend, while both of you share the same passions.
Such cases are pretty rare, but it is a viable reason you might get texted by someone in a relationship already.
5. He thinks you are funny.
There are people out there who genuinely like hanging around funny people.
It could easily be just this, without anything more to it.
If you are a funny girl, this scenario is something to consider.
6. He is just friendly.
Back in my high school days, there was a couple where the guy would hang around with more girls than guys.
He was genuinely having a better time around girls for some reason.
While he might be in a relationship, his kindness towards girls does not show any sign of being unfaithful.
If the texts he sends you are about basic things and don’t show any other intention that crosses the line, it could be that he is just friendly.
Should you confront him or stay low?
From personal experience, I recommend you go and confront him about all those text messages, especially if they are inappropriate!
There is no other way to get your point across and find answers, but by being open and blunt!
You should not feel awkward or any sense of guilt, for that matter, as you are not the one sending unwanted texts.
However, if you are not the type of girl who likes to confront, there is another option. Just ignore the messages and leave them on “Read,” hoping the guy will understand that you have no interest in him sooner rather than later.
So, what should you do if the texting doesn’t stop?
Yes, if you are anything like me, you will probably lose it if they keep texting you even after confronting them. However, I advise against this as it can make things worse.
I recommend just blocking their number and go on with your life. To make your point clear, I would block them on social media as well.
Somebody who behaves like this is not worth your time.
Should you tell his girlfriend about the texts?
Telling his girlfriend about the texts is debatable, as you don’t know how their partner will react. Would you like to be the girl whose boyfriend is texting other girls behind their back?
However, it is not very nice to approach somebody about something this personal and sensitive.
For starters, they might choose to believe their boyfriend, making your effort seem useless.
Also, you have to keep in mind that contacting their girlfriend about their behavior can make things worse. The said guy could start harassing you even more or come up with stories about how you are the one who tried getting with them.